judgement....thy name is friend?

I'm tired of the phrase, "He/She has issues." Duh. Welcome to the human race. We all by nature have issues. We are imperfect. The way I see the world, there are two kinds of people: those trying to get better and those who are just pissed. I am happy to lend an ear to someone who is trying to breakthrough the next obstacle. Or soemone who is racking their brain trying to figure things out. I am however frustrated by those who think people with "issues" are somehow lesser. Oh sorry. Forgive me. I didn't get the silver spoon! As a friend recently said, "It's not where you are. It's how far you've come." I loathe, to some degree, people who think that all the troubled people are just incapable or somehow lesser than. The people who frustrate me are those that just complain and take no action. They frustrate me only because I know they are stuck wasting time and I wish I could help them see the light. The other people that frustrate me are the one's that are so judgemental they make it hard for some to move on. Here's a laughable scenario: Someone who grew up in a good family with all the "normal" elements the we loosely define as the White Picket Fence....and yet this person looks down on others who are trying to get beyond the barriers of not having this fence. It's an intersting study of the human mind. It's funny to watch people who have experienced relatively normal lives judge others who have not. They have no clue. They have absolutely no idea. They cannot relate. And yet they sit on their imagined throne casting judgement on all those lessor than. The irony? Those people are actually the weaker species and they know it. They know that if they were to endure some of the hardships of their friends/family/acquaintances they would break. And so their only saving grace is to judge.I find it increcibly ironic. A person who cannot comprehend any form of abuse because they were lucky enough to not have been exposed to it....judges all those who have endured such pain. Thanks. With age, I have learned to look at these people with empathy: how great for you that your life has been so wonderful that you think others have somehwow brought crap upon themselves! If only the world were so simple. If only we could all wake up and say, "today I will stop dwelling on all the negative experiences that formed my core as I was growing up and unable to look at my experience from an adult perspective." LOLI grew up in crap. I am angered to this day, at times i realize it still effects me. But even in these moments I realize how it defines me. I look at people with objectivity. Maybe too much sometimes. But we are all just souls. Why do some start off so far behind the pact, I dont know. Why cant we just forget what has happened to us - well for many its defined us. I for example can admit, I didnt grow up in bliss. It has affected me in crazy ways. But at the same time, I know that the only way I can heal myself is to deal with it. Understand it. And then I can break the cycle. The notion that anyone should just forget and move on...well that's when people end up doing crazy hurtful things.